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31 October 2012 @ 07:36 pm
playing the waiting game.  
1. What type of birth control (Condoms, pills, pulled out) did you use, if any?
either none or pull out.

2. Were there any problems with your protection (condom breaking, missing pills)?

3. Are you trying to get pregnant, or avoiding it?
not avoiding, not trying

4. How many days are between the first day of one period and the first day of your next?

5. Any changes which could change your cycle (major change in diet, exercise, new medication, new stress?)
no matter how much stress I have ever had, i have NEVER missed a period. but nothing out of the ordinary.

6. What was the month/day your last period started?
oct 3 or 4.

7. What date(s) did you have sex?
oct 15, 16

8. Where was ejaculation(in vagina, in condom, pulled-out)?
in vagina on 10/15, pulled out 10/16.

9. Is there anything else that makes you think you're pregnant?
im mainly just playing the waiting game. i did get a migraine today which is common before I start my period. I went off BCP because they were causing frequent hormonal migraines. I'm looking into the copper IUD if I am not pregnant.
thank you all so much in advance for reading/advising.
She appears composed, so she is, I suppose.: Boisestacyinthecity on November 1st, 2012 03:51 am (UTC)
I'm guessing a 15% chance that you are pregnant. More or less depending on how old you are. It could be that you hit the fertile window. But go ahead and take a test - there is a chance it could be accurate! Take it with your first pee of the morning on Friday and if it is negative, try again a few days later if no period.

Good luck!
potato bags. i can't find my potato bags.dindin on November 1st, 2012 12:38 pm (UTC)
I don't know where you're coming up with such a firm percentage, what her age has to do with it or why she has to test on Friday. None of this comment makes much sense, frankly.

OP: Based on the length of your cycles, you would have been at high risk for getting pregnant on the days you had sex. Women typically ovulate anywhere around 12-16 days before their next period. If you're fertile, sperm can live several days, extending the number of days you're potentially at risk for pregnancy. Since it's been about two weeks since you had sex, you can go ahead and test with your first pee of the day. If it's negative, wait several days for your period to arrive and test again. If it's still negative and your period still doesn't arrive, it's a good time to see your doctor to find out what's going on.

Good luck.
She appears composed, so she is, I suppose.: Boisestacyinthecity on November 1st, 2012 01:30 pm (UTC)
My comment is basically the same as yours. :) Timing sex during the fertile period typically has a 20% chance of pregnancy in any given cycle - on average. For women who are young, it is slightly higher. For women who are older, it is slightly lower. The age of the man and quality of a man's sperm can also affect it. So can how many times they have sex during this fertile period. It seems she had sex most likely during her fertile period, but since I know nothing of her age or any other issues, and since they only had ejaculation one day during the fertile period, I hedged my bet a bit.

As for testing on Friday, I figured that since I posted late on Wednesday, she might not be able to get a test in time to test with the first trip to the bathroom on Thursday. But probably she could get a test today and them pee on it tomorrow.
potato bags. i can't find my potato bags.dindin on November 1st, 2012 03:07 pm (UTC)
I can't find a source for this percentage beyond this doctor says or that doctor says. It may or may not be reasonably accurate. It doesn't really matter, though. It's almost useless to put a number like that on a situation like this. The fact is that she had unprotected, and less than protected sex during a high risk point in her cycle. That puts her at a generally high risk for pregnancy - which is the important information that the OP needs. And she needs to know that she can take a test anytime
She appears composed, so she is, I suppose.: Boisestacyinthecity on November 1st, 2012 05:08 pm (UTC)
This links to this which I haven't read all the way, but looks like a pretty interesting study that supports that 20% number you see thrown around everywhere. Here is another link with charts and explanations and links to other studies.

Anyway, I agree, that is a pretty high chance of pregnancy - she had sex during the fertile time, which puts her at possibly becoming pregnant and she can test anytime - with first morning urine for most accurate results.
potato bags. i can't find my potato bags.dindin on November 1st, 2012 05:59 pm (UTC)
Thanks much for the links. We always appreciate someone who takes the time to source their information. The problem is that they're just not much help in the type of situations we deal in. Most of the time they give someone a false sense of security, since most of our community members usually come here concerned about possibly being pregnant. We're not trying to scare people, just be realistic about the risk they're putting themselves in by having unprotected or less than protected sex. That's why we don't use that figure; we do use the broader figure of an 85% chance of pregnancy within a year, which is saying the same thing...just differently and a bit more realistically if that makes sense?

Anyway, thanks for being a constructive member!
Old Blue Eyes: julia_thorne13babyhomecakes on November 2nd, 2012 11:27 pm (UTC)
i tested this morning with first pee of the day and it was negative. aunt flo is still nowhere to be found.
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on November 3rd, 2012 02:50 am (UTC)
Regardless of whether you've ever missed a period before, it's entirely possible to have an off month or a late period. In those circumstances, it's also not uncommon to have unusual PMS signs. I tend to think that if your body's off enough to have a late period, it's also off enough to give you unusual symptoms.

At this point you're barely even late. If I were in your situation, I would try and relax and give it another week or so. If my period hadn't shown up in that week, I'd test again using my first pee of the day.

It's possible that your period is on its way, and it's also possible that you're going to be pregnant and just tested too early for the test to register it. If you wait a week, you'll have a better chance of getting a result you can rely on.

Good luck.