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21 March 2013 @ 08:13 am
paranoid....  
1. What type of birth control (Condoms, pills, pulled out) did you use, if any? Condoms

2. Were there any problems with your protection (condom breaking, missing pills)? Not that I know of

3. Are you trying to get pregnant, or avoiding it? AVOIDING!

4. How many days are between the first day of one period and the first day of your next? between 25 and 28 for the past 3 or 4 months.

5. Any big changes which could change your cycle (major change in diet, exercise, new medication, new stress?) massive amounts of stress (I have an anxiety disorder and this is not helping) and I moved back to school after 2 weeks of being at my safe, relaxing home environment...

6. What was the month/day your last period started? Feb 28

7. What date(s) did you have sex? March 5, twice. One of those times he didn't finish, but we still used a condom both times.

8. Where was ejaculation(in vagina, in condom, pulled-out)? In vagina in condom.

9. Is there anything else that makes you think you're pregnant? I've been experiencing a ton of bloating and gas this week... more than my normal amount before my period. I find this whole thing really strange because I get pretty bad ovulation cramps and they occurred on March 14 and 15, which should put my mind at ease that I did not ovulate at a fertile time. Still, I get bad anxiety like this every time I have sex and I don't agree with HBC so I guess I have to deal with it. If anyone could give me any advice, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks so much in advance.
 
 
 
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on March 21st, 2013 10:15 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't judge whether you're pregnant based on symptoms, because bodies do all sorts of weird things. The only reliable indicators of pregnancy are a missed period and a positive pregnancy test.

You can't always judge when you ovulate by cramps, but I'll agree that it does sound like you ovulated around that time. However, sperm can survive in fertile cervical fluids for 5-7 days, so you're actually fertile for more than the days you ovulate.

Have you tried more than one formula of pill? It's possible to have a horrible reaction to one or two, but be totally fine on others. I went through this myself. However, the pill is not your only option. There are many methods available now, and many sound like good possibilities for you. For example, there's Implanon (the implant), IUDs (both hormonal and non-hormonal), Nuvaring, and spermicides. It might be worth trying another method just to see how you do with it.

Also, have you spoken to your doctor about your anxiety? There are many things doctors can do to help with anxiety. I'm on anxiety medication, and I am absolutely blown away by just how much less anxiety I have in my life now. Don't be embarrassed to talk to someone about it, because it really is a medical issue! :D

So no, I don't think you're pregnant. If anything, it sounds like you may be sick.
wegan: jongkeyshounenhero on March 22nd, 2013 02:32 am (UTC)
I checked my cervical mucus on Saturday which would've been right around the 14th or 15th (aka midcycle for me) and it was clear, wet, and stretchy, and from what I've read that means it was fertile. That would mean having sex on the 5th would've been 8-10 days before I ovulated... the fertile-looking CM combined with the cramps made me think I was ovulating, at least. I certainly hope I was.

I've also been having some milky non-stretchy discharge in the last couple days... once again, of course, an early pregnancy symptom... combined with all the bloating/gas it all just makes me so nervous....

I've thought about going to therapy. Should I speak to a medical doctor or a therapist? It would be great to hear some advice on this subject since I'm not really comfortable talking about it with anyone I know.

Thanks so much for your response. I really really appreciate it. This whole ordeal has been causing me to lose sleep, lose focus, etc. It's really embarrassing, but this is my 5th or so pregnancy scare since I started having sex only in September 2012. I'm sure it's my anxiety that causes most of this and not really any rational fears, but I can't really distinguish the two. :(
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on March 23rd, 2013 05:50 am (UTC)
Oh, I agree... it's incredibly unlikely that you'd be pregnant. And again, don't pay attention to symptoms, because they're the worst way to diagnose a pregnancy. The only reliable signs are a missed period and a positive test.

In all honesty, it's worth talking to your general practitioner about first. I originally got my meds from my GP. I've done therapy in the past, and I also highly recommend it if you can find someone you click with.

I do understand the stigma of trying to deal with anxiety. I finally made peace with myself over it by realizing that anxiety is a chemical condition, just like diabetes or something similar. You wouldn't feel embarrassed about needing insulin if your body didn't make it. But because so many people say, "Oh, you're being " it can be really easy to feel like you're doing something wrong by having problems with anxiety or depression.

Also, it's totally ok to either use two methods of birth control or to tell your partner that you just aren't comfortable having sex right now. Your peace of mind is totally worth it!