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19 January 2014 @ 10:29 pm
2 posts in one week, i'm on a roll. Using the survey again just to make things clearer.

1. What type of birth control (Condoms, pills, pulled out) did you use, if any? Yasmin pills and condom

2. Were there any problems with your protection (condom breaking, missing pills)? Condom slipped off after ejaculation. I also took my pill 8 hours later than i supposed to last week.(take my pills at 9pm, took it at 5am instead.) I don't remember the exact day but it's not earlier than a week. Let's say it was last Saturday which is exactly a week earlier. Yasmin pamphlet says it's considered a missed pill if taken 12 hours later than usual.

3. Are you trying to get pregnant, or avoiding it? Avoiding.

4. How many days are between the first day of one period and the first day of your next? 28

5. Any big changes which could change your cycle (major change in diet, exercise, new medication, new stress?) no

6. What was the month/day your last period started? Jan 2

7. What date(s) did you have sex? Today. January 19th.

8. Where was ejaculation(in vagina, in condom, pulled-out)? In condom but it slipped off inside me.

9. Is there anything else that makes you think - not right now. I just want to know if i should take emergency contraception? I have 6 active pills left. Should i wait and see if i have my period?

ETA: update for panicky people like me; went to the doctor's to get checked for possible infections because i was convinced something was going on. Nothing. Just breakthrough bleeding and a lot of stress. Had my period today, a day earlier than normal with mild cramps and all.
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on January 20th, 2014 01:18 am (UTC)
Yasmin is clear on this one- a pill is missed if it's 12 hours or more late. You didn't miss a pill, and taking one pill in the middle of the pack late isn't going to greatly affect your protection.

Because of this, the condom slipping isn't really a big deal. You're using hormonal birth control- the pill. The pill works in three ways.
1. It prevents ovulation.
If there's no ovulation, there's no egg to fertilize, no matter how much sex you have or where he comes.

2. It thickens cervical fluids.
Thickened cervical fluids mean sperm can't travel to where an egg would be, if you had ovulated. They also tend to kill sperm pretty quickly. (Sperm are dead within 30 minutes to an hour if not in fertile cervical fluids.)

3. It thins your uterine lining.

A thinner uterine lining means that if there were an egg, and if the sperm survived the trek up to fertilize it, there would be no place for it to implant.

So, all things considered, I don't see any reason for you to take EC.

ecinesia: pic#122556907ecinesia on January 20th, 2014 05:05 am (UTC)
Thank you very much. Although i know hbc is effective on its own, it's still unsettling when something goes wrong with the condom.
It's great to have this community for much needed reassurance, thanks again for creating it.
Lemonade Girlmslaynie on January 20th, 2014 08:42 am (UTC)
You're welcome. Instead of focusing on the condom as if it's the only form of birth control you're using, it's more realistic to think of your pill as your primary method because of the way it protects you.

One final thought, if you ever do need to use EC, you need to use it as soon as possible. You can only use EC within 5 days of the incident, and it is more effective the earlier you use it.

I'm glad we could help.
ecinesia: pic#122556907ecinesia on January 22nd, 2014 02:40 pm (UTC)
i need to ask something else if you dont mind.
i've been having brownish discharge with tiny bit of blood in it today. i know you've always said implantation bleeding is so rare it's almost a myth, but this is weird. i'm not even done with my active pills yet and my expected period is a week away. Am i nitpicking?
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on January 22nd, 2014 03:48 pm (UTC)
You are absolutely overthinking things. I do have a question for you- are you always this anxious about the idea of an accidental pregnancy, or is it a new thing? Do you have anxiety in other areas of your life?

I'm not meaning to pry, but trying to help you figure out what the issue is so that you can hopefully enjoy your intimacy without the overwhelming anxiety and fears.
ecinesia: pic#122556907ecinesia on January 22nd, 2014 03:55 pm (UTC)
i am anxious about everything but since being sexually active is a new thing for me and even though i used birth control to regulate my period for years, i'm finding it hard to trust it as a way to prevent pregnancy.

You are not prying at all, you are actually helping me bu questioning me because i have tendency to obsess over my worries and want to talk about them constantly. this has been the longest i've experienced. i kept reading about this and posting to several other places i follow to get the same answer everyday.

Thanks for the repeated reassurance :)
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on January 22nd, 2014 04:02 pm (UTC)
I understand what you're going through. If I might make a couple of suggestions... First let me say that I understand anxiety. I deal with it too, and it can be debilitating. I actually am on medication to treat my anxiety, and it has made a world of difference in my life. I didn't realize just how much it affected my life until it wasn't there anymore.

My suggestions? First, it may be worthwhile for you to talk to your doctor about your level of anxiety to find out what your options are. There's nothing shameful about getting help when you need it, just like there's nothing shameful about seeing a doctor when you've broken a bone or your appendix is about to rupture.

Second, it might be worth reconsidering your level of sexual activity. There are many ways to be intimate with your partner without risk of pregnancy. Your peace of mind is absolutely valuable, and you have every right to say, "Hey, I'm not comfortable with this. I'm not ready to have a child, and the stress of this is more hassle than it's worth." Your comfort is precious, and any partner who doesn't understand that might just not be worth keeping around! ;)

Finally, keep rereading how the pill protects you. I always find hard facts reassuring. :D
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on January 22nd, 2014 03:54 pm (UTC)
Oops, I hit post too early. It's important to remember that your body isn't clockwork, programmed to do the exact same thing every day, every cycle. Instead, your body is an ever-adapting thing, very complex with interrelated systems.

In other words, even things you don't think would affect your cycle can cause changes. Breakthrough bleeding is one of the most common side effects of using hormonal birth control. It doesn't mean anything on its own, and it's not a sign of pregnancy.

So what can cause breakthrough bleeding? Lots of things. Just listing off the top of my head- illness, starting a new medication, stopping a medication you've used for a while, physical stress like changing your sleep patterns or doing more/different physical activity than you're used to, mental stress like planning a vacation or a wedding (positive mental stress) or losing a job or a death in the family (negative mental stress), anxiety...

Any of those things can cause your body to be a bit off and result in breakthrough bleeding. It doesn't mean you're not protected. I tend to think of it as your body's way of saying, "Hey, what's going on out there?!"

How long have you been taking the pill? Is it a new thing for you?
ecinesia: pic#122556907ecinesia on January 22nd, 2014 04:03 pm (UTC)
i've been using the pill for years, on and off. i used it for 2 years before i took a break for a month and restarted in November when i decide to become sexually active.
another reason for the discharge and spotting might be the intercourse being a bit too rough. Thanks for the long reply and sincerety again. it helps a lot.
Lemonade Girl: avatar- blinkingmslaynie on January 22nd, 2014 04:33 pm (UTC)
Honestly, even the stress of becoming sexually active and worrying about pregnancy is enough to throw some women's cycles off for a bit. And yes, rough sex can cause a bit of spotting or light bleeding sometimes.

Just remember you've doubled up on protection, and the odds of you becoming pregnant are incredibly slim... :D